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In unbiased, unspecific terms, the Day of Silence is an opportunity to maintain a vigil that simultaneously reflects on lives cut tragically short and to serve as a reminder of the end result of hatred, prejudice, and indifference. If you are a progressive proponent, it is a day in honor of and reserved for the suffering of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender communities of America – a chance to proclaim a social and political message that the worth of a person is not determined by his or her sexual orientation, and that discrimination on such a merit is no better than racism or sexism. If your views are more orthodox, it is paradoxically an unacceptable acceptance of a deviant lifestyle, the promotion of an agenda that leads to the desecration of traditional family and community values.
It would be a lie to say that my own view of the Day of Silence is itself unbiased. I am a quietly proud Christian and a proponent of the value of the family, but my experiences and times with members of the GLBT community has erased the prejudices I once held as a child and shown me that within the structure of a family, it is love and understanding that truly comprise a warm and nurturing home. I neither begrudge the traditional family nor exalt it, and the same applies to nontraditional families as well.
However, I speak neither as a prophet from the mount nor as a man seeking to incite rebellion. I am no master of rhetoric to sway hearts and change convictions, and I come bearing neither science nor scripture to assert any claims you may yet expect of me. In the spirit of silence, I offer no testimony either, the same as those who have truly suffered and been muted thereafter. If it is stories and memoirs you seek, turn elsewhere; I seek to bring hope and serenity for my causes, not fury and indignation.
I instead have a simple request of everyone who would read this, regardless of how you perceive yourself and the people around you: please, put an end to the antagonism and strife that has plagued the Day of Silence. It is a most unsettling scene that the most vocal proponents of each side regard the other with disdain, condemnation, and outright malice – unsettling in that each side is supposedly striving for a greater love. I have seen the advocates of gay rights mock their opponents as backwards, spiteful and ignorant; and I have in turn seen the advocates of traditional values accuse their opponents of being immoral, promiscuous, and thoughtless. I will not deny that there are indeed people of both sides that fit such profiles, but when such generalizations are blanketed over the entire discourse between the two, nothing productive can or will ever come of it.
I have heard of threats, vandalism, harassment, and even violence employed as means of getting people to ‘see things the right way’;  neither progressives nor the orthodox claim a monopoly on such travesties. On the Day of Silence, people campaigning for boundless love as much as the love of Christ have employed tactics that embody the complete opposite of their ideals – tactics based upon alienation and hostility. Nothing could be more contrary to the promises that encompass love, for such promises are based on acceptance, understanding, and compassion.
It is my own sincere wish that the Day of Silence is not a necessity, and my own belief that the quality of one’s character should determine how we perceive them, and not an immutability such as sexual orientation. I recognize, however, that people do disagree with my view – and I respect their right and ability to vocalize and exercise their own personal convictions. I do not come asking for a mass conversion, then – I ask simply that you respect the human dignity of even the people you may disagree with, and remember that regardless of who we are, who we love, or what we believe in, we are all still human, and share those same feelings of love, sadness, and anger in spite of our differences. And at the least, if you cannot learn to love your fellow man, at least do him no harm, for life can be a lot hard enough without the burden of another’s needless cruelty. If you cannot speak with love, then at least preserve a respectful silence.
My own two bits for the Day of Silence.
I worry I'm too placid for this sort of thing, though. XP
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Given 2013-04-19
Day of Silence by ~Shujy eloquently states that, "If you cannot speak with love, then at least preserve a respectful silence." ( Featured by Nichrysalis )
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TheMusicMajor Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Words can't describe how much I love this. 
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Patrikia-Bear Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:highfive: Approve.
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Rohvannyn Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Student General Artist
Though I didn't participate, I appreciate any attempt at support, understanding, or solidarity. Yep, I'm one of Them. And I proudly stand for the right to be unique and human and still to be respected, as well as to respect others.
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The-Artistic-Panda Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
This is beautiful. My school is 3000+ with an active GSA and we managed 700+ participants and 40+ Safe Zone teachers. Well said, sir.
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HandmadeOfferings Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
very nice... it's hard though, as a fellow Christian I have difficulty knowing how to lovingly approach people without compromising God's word by trying so hard not to hurt in such a way that I deprive the gospel of its meaning, which in it's truth CAN hurt even those of us who believe..... "Now when they heard this, they were pierced to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, "Brethren, what shall we do?" ~Acts 2:37
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HandmadeOfferings Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
(only quoted for the sake of expressing how even believers have asked that question among themselves)
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Naelii Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
I participated today (: Every time I would even breath while mouthing things, I would snap a rubber band on my wrist! Now I look as if I have been cutting! ;o I know at least 15 kids who had participated today, at least the kids at my school care. (: I did kind of cheat though, I wrote on paper, mouthed words, and did many hand motions. Was that not allowed? Haha I don't think I'd be able to stand an entire day without talking!! I am a very, very loud person
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KonanDattebayoGirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
You are an amazing writer. :) I would have participated in the day of silence had I not been required to speak and discuss with a group as their leader on the same day but this doesn't make it any less important to me. I see a problem when we have to protest and fight and in some cases die for rights we all should already have in the land of the free, in our own country fighting our own people. But, it is all part of the progression of this country and this is still a pretty young country and many people have a lot to learn. I also don't get how people forget the number one rule that is taught in kindergarten: "Treat others the way you want to be treated." Think about Martin Luther King, Jr. and his leading of nonviolent protests and fighting hate with love. Everyone should be free to love and it's your personal business who you love. Why bar people from having good feelings and being happy? Why cause more hate when there are already people suffering peoples' wrongdoing, small children losing their friends and families in school shootings? Why not direct your energy towards something better? I have high respect for my friends who participated in this day because some of them got things thrown at them and were disrespected by rude students yet they still stood against bullying and for the freedom to love by keeping their pledge of silence. Would you rather be part of the cause of hatred, violence, and suicide or would you rather work against it? And I'm not just talking about people disliking homosexuality, you can leave that alone if you don't like it and move on to doing good in something you want to help with instead of focusing energy into negative feelings and actions. That is the way to achieving good, by just doing it, simple as that.
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I wore duct tape on my mouth from school's start to school's end, with lunch as the only exception. It really hurt getting the tape off! I recommend putting soap and water around you mouth when trying to get off any extra tape bits that might stick around your mouth.
Thank u 4 making this~!
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Inemiset Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Today was the day of silence???? Dang.

Another year goes by when nobody in my school knew...
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darth-nile Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student General Artist
I read this thinking of my lost friend, and her Bride to never be.
Thank you.
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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013   Writer
I agree. I still try to do the day of silence (keyword - try) but I say people should be judged by who, not what they are
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Rosalinda16 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I am bisexual, but thankfully all my friends and family don't care, and I'm semi-antisocial, so I don't know what anyone else thinks, but this is amazing and I absolutely agree.

P.S. congrats on very deserved dd!
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Bisexuals unite!
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FatHobbitLover Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student Writer
"If you cannot learn to love your fellow man, at least do him no harm, for life can be a lot hard enough without the burden of another’s needless cruelty."

That really hits home. I participated in the Day of Silence today and was relieved by the amount of support I received from my friends, even those who don't even back gay marriage. Usually, it wouldn't be that way.

As an awkwardly, half-in half-out of the closet lesbian, I really appreciate all you've had to say on the matter. It's hard hearing people tell me that being gay is a choice, when I would take it back in a second. And it's hard not being able to share who I really am with those closest to me, who I know would react badly, possibly ruining the bond we have now.

College is coming up and you're right- life is already a lot harder without the judging looks and the muttered comments spoken behind my back. Thank you so much for sticking up for me and the rest of the LGBT community- sometimes we can feel like there's no one out there at all. :tighthug:
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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013   Writer
I agree with you completely!
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TheGalleryOfEve Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Congratulations on your well-deserved DD!!! :iconflyingheartsplz::iconlainloveplz: :iconflyingheartsplz: :clap::clap::clap:
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BatmanWithBunnyEars Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013   General Artist
I appreciate the message of acceptance, and I'm especially glad that you recognize that homosexuality is something immutable rather than a choice, but I'd like to make a few suggestions. First of all, I think this piece would be easier to read, and would invite more people to read it, if you added a line return between each paragraph. Also, I noticed a few grammar errors. For example, consider the phrase:

...but my experiences and times with members of the GLBT community has erased the prejudices I once held as a child and shown me...

The verb "has" refers to "experiences and times," so it should be conjugated for the plural, as in, "...my experiences and times with members of the GLBT community have..."

Furthermore, the past tense of "show" should either be the simple past "showed" or the present perfect "have shown," but not just, "shown."

There are also very common errors in these phrases:

"...there are indeed people of both sides that fit such profiles..." should be, "people of both sides who fit such profiles..."

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"...the people you may disagree with..." should be, "...the people with whom you may disagree..."

That aside, I will say that silence is golden! :iconnod-plz:
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DeadEyedDemon Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student General Artist
I participated in this today with some of my friends. We're all Bi. And I think we made a message around my school about how people shouldnt be judged on what they believe in.. :)
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Bisexuals Unite! :)
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DeadEyedDemon Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Student General Artist
yay! :iconfabulouspewdsplz:
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Onionelli Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Nothing of great importance is occurring here within the aquatic borders of Australia.
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aalarcon481 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm doing this too! I got a kit from GSA :D
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thenandmshow Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student Writer
Participated today as an ally. Glad to hear others did as well. I heard some horrible things today and it's good to hear that there's more support than hate.
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DreamsofToday Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student General Artist
I'm always shocked at how prejudiced people can be. I've done Day of Silence for 3 years, and I have never received anything but support. I hope that people will become more accepting of other opinions, even if they don't agree.
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SimplySilent Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
Thank you, this is perfect :heart: Congrats on the DD! :clap:
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GB1357 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
This is true. I'm a lesbian and my gf gets harassed ny everyone and it makes her really upset.
Also one of my friends had to move because his house was robbed(hate crime) because he's gay.
I also know someone who is satanic and someone who's atheist. I find no problem with this, even though I am catholic.
I believe people should accept others for who they and if they can't, they should just let them be and leave them alone
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Where I'm from, lesbians recieve death threats. Which makes me want to protest even more. Bless u~!
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GB1357 Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2013
Yeah I get teased every once in a while. But I just shake it off! I'm proud of who I am!
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
U should be~! :)
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WantsToLoseHerMask Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for voicing what others are not always able to. I participated.
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Atlantagirl Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
So did I, along with a portion of the people reading this! :3
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Beiowulf Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist
This is so perfect; it explains exactly how I feel about the matter as well. But I can't put it into words as well as you so when me and my mom start discussing gays and lesbians she always thinks I'm a screaming liberal. :-X
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pinballwitch Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
Congrats on DD and thanks for sharing :nod:
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angelsonthesky Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013
<3
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AyeAye12 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Student Writer
AMEN BROTHA =P

But seriously, this pretty much sums it up.
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Hiland-Rose Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
I have to commend you for speaking so eloquently on the subject. I do take issue with the method of the protest for the simple reason that the participants are aleinating themselves and closing off communication and healthy conversation about the subject at hand. It is also disruptive to the classroom. There is a time anda place, unfortunately instructional periods during the school day aren't appropriate. Although I agree that people need to speak from a point of love, not self righteousness, judgement or hate, the LGBT community also needs to be respectful of the rights of those who do not approve of the lifestyles promoted by the community. There is no perfect solution to the issue, there will always be idiots on both sides of the issue itching to mouth off or worse. It is my hope that one day homosexuality will be seen for what it is, and treated with the same comapassion that those who suffer from depression, bipolar disorder and other mood disorders receive. I believe that when we put aside the politics that drive the fear, there will be an end to this kind of thing. I have gay friends and family members, but I don't agree with the way they chose to live their lives. It is a wedge between us but one we have overcome, even though often it means we must agree to disagree.
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neurotype Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If students' lives are disrupted by harassment for something they didn't choose, why shouldn't they raise awareness during class time? You make it sound as if not talking in class for a day is a bigger problem than the teachers who brush off reports of harassment.
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Hiland-Rose Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
I am not for bullying of any kind, regardless of the reason. I have an issue with the manner that the protest chooses to call attention to the issue. It aleienates people when you choose to be silent, both the participants and those who may disagree with them. Refusing an opportunity for reconciliation, healthy discussion and the ability to declare your rights doesn't really help your cause. I also take issue with the fact that if I speak out against the lifestyle I get labeled and harrassed. My kids are being bullied too, just because they are who they are, because they are socially awkward and Christian in a public school. Bullying is a much bigger problem than LGBT vs the world.
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neurotype Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm inclined to agree with you on most of this, but given the success of the peaceful protest against belligerent others, it's hard to grudge them for trying. I like your objection on the grounds that it hinders dialogue, but I didn't find calling it disruptive appropriate.
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AvengingCoconut Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I agree with you for the most part, however homosexuality is mental difference more than mental illness, and is more akin to vegetarianism than a severe mood disorder such as Bi-polar.
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Hiland-Rose Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
Vegetarianism is a change in life style made by a concsious decision, not necessarily impulse or "being born that way". Although I take issue with the life style, I am not entirely convinced that homosexual individuals entirely choose to enter the life style. I wish there could be some serious study given to the issue to clarify one way or the other... as long as the issue is politicized, any scientific research is going to be slanted, or not pursued at all.
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AvengingCoconut Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, someone pointed that out to me. heh, didn't think that one through ^^; Couldn't think of a mental difference other than that.

I came up with a better analogy that it was closer to Synesthesia.

Scientific research would be beneficial. Although there have been a few slightly well known ones that have been concluded- like that the chance of homosexuality in men is higher in the youngest sibling with many brothers, which is believed to be because the female immune system actually fights the Y chromosome and with each male fetus the immune system becomes more adept. Although that's the only one I can think there will probably be more.
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Vanshira Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Not so much; vegetarianism is generally a conscious choice. It's more like having grey eyes.
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AvengingCoconut Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
hhm... although having grey eyes isn't to do with mental difference...
Okay, homosexuality is Synesethia. That's a good analogy :la:
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Vanshira Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Yes. Synesthesia is good.
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lintu47 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
    Congrats on the well deserved DD! :dalove:
    Have a nice day! :heart:
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venezuelaluvbigbear Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
im in the middle of this right now ^^
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hikap Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Me too ^-^
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